Boutilier, Barbara (Ash) passed peacefully on Sunday April 7th at Steere House. Born in Cranston, she was the daughter of the late Albert and Anna (Ross) Ash, sister of Albert and the late Robert Ash. Barbara was the wife of the late Charles E. L. Boutilier. She was the devoted mother of Linda Boutilier Gendron (John) and Edward L. Boutilier (Martha) of Scituate. She was the proud grandmother of Jenna Boutilier Forsman (Brian) and Bryan Boutilier. She also leaves her great grandson Noah Forsman. Barbara graduated from Cranston High School and Edgewood Secretarial School. Barbara maintained an upbeat, optimistic personal outlook, despite several personal set-backs that would have been too much for those with less forebearance. At age 14, she made it into the Journal of American Medicine by being one of the first to survive spinal meningitis. Her doctor experimented with a new sulfa medication and she came out of a deep coma. She made a full recovery but was left with permanent hearing loss in one ear. After five years of marriage, her beloved husband drowned while fishing alone off the rocks in Narragansett. She learned to drive, went back to work and managed to raise two young children as a single mother at a time when that was not common. She said that raising her children gave her the will to go on and she gave all she had to the job. She was proud of the accomplishments of her children and grandchildren and wanted them to have more opportunities than she had. Later, she was one of the first single women to be given a mortgage so that she could buy a house for her family. Old Stone Bank took the risk because she was a loyal and valued employee. She rose to the level of Vice President despite not having a college education and went on to help found the Human Resources Dept. and eventually be the bank expert on employee benefits. She personally watched over the bank retirees. Ironically, when it was time for her to retire, she had such faith in the bank she put her pension in bank stock and lost it when the bank became insolvent. She never lost faith in the banking industry and was never bitter about what happened to her. She loved to travel and took her family on several vacations to Canada, a woman alone with two small children. She was grateful that her job allowed her to travel and took advantage of the chance to go to conferences all over the U.S. She made two trips to the British Isles to visit her mother's family. She often spoke of her trips to California, Bermuda, and Colorado. Barbara revelled in her parent's large families and embraced her husband's family even after he died. She stayed in touch with family all over the world and loved the idea of family reunions. She managed to make up for not having biological sisters through her extended family and considered her cousin, Shirley and her sister-in -law Marge to be her sisters. She also maintained a life long relationship with her best friend from kindergarten, Lorene. She was a faithful member of Calvary Baptist Church and taught Sunday School for many years. She served on several boards including SPNM, Steere House, and the Society for Women Accountants. A funeral Service will be held on Thursday April 11th at 10:00am in The Butterfield Chapel 500 Pontiac Avenue Cranston. Burial will follow in Quidnessett Memorial Cemetery North Kingstown. Visitation will be held on Wednesday from 6:00-8:00pm. Kindly omit flowers. Donations to Steere House 100 Borden Street Providence, RI 02903 or South Providence Neighborhood Ministries 747 Broad Street Providence, RI 02907 would be appreciated.
Kathy, Rick and James Sturges - 04/08/2013
We are sorry to hear of your loss but so glad to have such fond memories of many, many happy times together. Our thoughts and prayers of comfort are with all of you at this sad time.
Kimberly Chase-Adler - 04/08/2013
I am so very sad for you and your family. Your mother was just the coolest Mom around in so many ways that mattered.She was a strong, supporting "pillar" and will be sorely missed. Please accept my BIG HUGS, and know that we are thinking of you, sending positive energy your way. XOXO, KIM (and family)
Kathy, Bruce, and Laura Nelson - 04/08/2013
We are so sorry for your loss. We have many wonderful memories, especially of Barbara's two trips to visit us in Colorado. She loved exploring the mountains, even when she came face to face with a buffalo! We hope all your memories give you comfort. We send you our love.
Shirley Sneed - 04/08/2013
I am so sad about Barbie's passing. We were like sisters for almost 90 years. I will miss getting our lobster rolls with our daughters several times a year; I am glad we did that just three weeks ago. My thoughts and prayers and love go out to Linda and John and to Ed and Martha and their children.
Jane Rambone - 04/09/2013
Please accept my condolences. I have many fond memories of Barbara at the meetings and conventions of the American Society of Women Accountants. A wonderful friend.
Nancy Schwab Souza - 04/09/2013
I am so very sorry for your loss. I worked with your mother at the Old Stone Bank in Personnel in the late 60's. She was a kind and wonderful woman. Barbara always spoke with great love and pride about her children. She was very professional, yet caring and friendly to everyone at the bank. My prayers are with you and your families. May your many wonderful memories sustain you.
Jerry Leveille - 04/09/2013
Barbara was a wonderful person, always kind and understanding even in the corporate world. I worked with her at OSB. My condolences to the family.
Barbara & Bob Ducharme - 04/09/2013
Linda, I'm so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. I always felt that I had a special connection to your Mom as another "Barbara" who also spent many years in the banking industry. What a sweet woman! Rest in peace, Barbara.
Wanda Michaelson - 04/09/2013
Please accept my sincere condolences. I appreciated Barbara's support as a loyal volunteer, Board member and friend during my term as Executive Director of South Providence Neighborhood Ministries. She was a great woman.
Marcia Matika - 04/09/2013
I can still remember my stay at Barbara's house, just after starting to do family history research. She was very willing to share stories and other information about the Ash family and other folks on our tree. What I remember most though was her striking independence and perseverance, so aptly described above. My condolences, Linda and Edward.
Bob and Lisa St. George - 04/10/2013
We would like to express our sincere condolences for your loss. Take comfort in knowing she will continue to watch over you as you keep her in your hearts.
Natalie McKenna - 04/11/2013
So sorry to read of Barbara's death. She hired me back in 1968 for work at Old Stone Bank Computer Center. It was a very difficult time for me and she was my salvation. I reamined there until it's demise. I am and will always be so grateful to her. A great lady. She will be remembered in my prayers.
Bob,Stephanie and Katie - 04/11/2013
Sorry we can't be there. As you said, Marge and her were true sisters, and for me, the greatest of Aunts.
Linda and Steve Gaulin - 04/15/2013
We are so sorry about your mom's passing. She was a wonderful lady and a good friend. Our deepest sympathies.
Linda Boutilier Gendron - 05/12/2013
Thank you to everyone who has showed me such love and support while I am grieving my mother's passing. Your heartfelt wishes and your memories of my mother are a great comfort to me at this time.